Recently I have has some nannies express concern about how their employer is trying to “micro-manage” them and how it effects their mental health in the workplace. It’s important to avoid micromanaging your nanny, as this can create tension and make your nanny feel inadequate, on edge, and feel like they cannot do anything right.
Here are some tips on how to avoid micromanaging your nanny:
- Set clear expectations: At the beginning of the working relationship, have a conversation with your nanny to establish clear expectations for their role and responsibilities. This will help ensure that both you and your nanny are on the same page, and will give them the autonomy they need to do their job effectively.
- Give your nanny space: This is really important. While it can be tempting to check in frequently, avoid hovering over your nanny or constantly monitoring their activities. This can create a tense working environment and may make your nanny feel like they aren’t trusted. Imagine if your boss did that to you in the office…it is also important to let your nanny and child/children be able to bond and make their own relationship so they all feel happy together. If you are always around, the child will automatically want and prefer to be with you. This is absolutely normal, but it can make your nanny’s job difficult, and can be confusing for the child.
- Provide feedback constructively: If you have concerns or suggestions for your nanny, be sure to communicate them in a constructive and supportive way. Try to frame feedback in a positive light and focus on specific behaviours or actions that you would like to see changed or improved. Try to not be too picky with the “little things” – like how they dry and launder clothes, or how they cook a certain meal. Everyone does things differently and it may take time for your nanny to learn or even find out that you want things done in a different way.
- Trust your nanny’s expertise: Your nanny likely has years of experience caring for children and can bring valuable insights and expertise to your family. Try to trust their judgment and let them make decisions without constant oversight.
- Establish clear communication: Finally, it’s important to establish clear lines of communication with your nanny. Set up regular check-ins or meetings to discuss any concerns or updates, but also be sure to respect their time and privacy outside of work hours.
By following these tips, you can create a supportive and positive working relationship with your nanny, and help ensure that your children receive the best possible care.